I am aware this blog has been quiet for an amount of time- I have been busy moving house. It has been quite tricky to get my head back into the zone for writing. However, as far as astrology itself goes- my head is never quite out of that zone.
As we are in Scorpio season at present, my mind has turned to the eighth house. There have been many endings and resurrections here, many themes of enmeshment with others. Scorpio and the eighth house are inconjunct the other Mars-ruled sign and house- Aries and the ascendant. The inconjunct is quite an uncomfortable energy. This is that of things that neither flow nor resist, but simply cannot come into union- like ships in the night. In synastry, the inconjunct is a particularly troublesome beast.
What is it that is at perfect and irreconcilable odds with the sense of self? Not merely opposite, but more than opposite? The necessity of not merely balancing the self against the other (Libra), but of *merging* the self with the other. This is the “little death” of sex, where we sacrifice energy in order that something be made anew. Sexual energy, once lost, needs time to be regained.
This is one way in which we can merge with others in the eighth house- through sex. However, we can also spend money on others, spend emotional energy on others, spend time on others. Sex without the entanglement of cords, spiritual physical and emotional- that would be fifth house sex. Eighth house sex is the kind that goes deeper and traps you with the other to create something new with your energy, for better or for worse.
Eighth house overlays in synastry can be somewhat lumped together with Pluto aspects in synastry, although of course overlays are slightly less significant than aspects. This can be energy vampire stuff at its most negative and draining, and a strong business partnership/ married couple stuff at its best. The eighth house is quite a vulnerable place and whether this manifests for good or for ill depends on the rest of the chart, and how either part of the couple deals with eighth house energy.
Your Jupiter in your partner’s 8th house might see you giving a lot *financially* to the union. The same goes for Venus. The Moon is all about emotional giving. However, in this case you will not give without the expectation of gaining something in return. This is no selfless Neptunian love here, this is very much give and take- and when things are unbalanced in this respect, much resentment can build. A human being feels attached to the outcome of their giving when it comes to the eighth house, for they subconsciously know that the result of it defines their future karma.
I feel that with the eighth house the energy goes both ways quite significantly, although the house person will perceive the energy more strongly. A nice way to envision the answer for “who feels it more” when it comes to overlays is to perceive the planet person shining the energy of their planet into the house, while they peer in and perceive that part of that person’s life. However, of course other factors come into account here as well.
The eighth house in the natal chart represents where we go into the abyss and find ourselves anew. This is debt, financial obligations, sex (as already mentioned), long-term sexual partnerships, death and rebirth. Someone with a strong eighth house can experience a lot of extreme moments in their lives, which rebuild them stronger every time they experience them. They can also spend a lot of their life enmeshed in systems outside themselves- codependent relationships, government benefits, or the tax department. These people might find it difficult to draw boundaries with others, and accept when boundaries are being drawn with them.
The eighth house should not be feared, but it should not be glorified either. When it comes to the eighth house, I counsel caution- because what we do with others here will define what we create in the future. Here we can spin negative karmic enmeshments that resonate for many lifetimes, or we can build something strong and enduring for our future. The choice is always ours.
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